ST. GEORGE, Utah (ABC4 Utah) – A St. George man who lost his wife to tragedy a year ago making sure her memory lives on.
“Crazy you’re one-year-old, huh baby,” said Jared Buhanan-Decker to his son J.J.
Friday is J.J.’s first birthday. It’s also the day Jared Buhanan-Decker lost his wife—JJ’s mother Sharry—during JJ’s birth.
“I’m trying to focus more on the birthday side with JJ. … But of course it’s going to be a very tough day as well,” said Jared.
Jared and Sharry Buhanan-Decker’s story made national news a year ago after Reddit users across the globe helped make Sharry’s songs into recorded lullaby’s for her little baby she never got to meet.
“On tough nights I still like to play two or three of Sharry’s songs for JJ,” said Jared.
It’s been a hard first year for Jared without his soulmate and best friend of 12 years—learning how to be a new father and doing it alone.
“I still have really rough nights, where, you know, a lot of tears, but they’re not as frequent as they used to be,” said Jared.
But he aims to live his life as a legacy to his lost love.
“Sharry was such a kind compassionate person and she had just such a zest for life, and experience life to the fullest, and she was so excited to have this baby boy, and to love and experience life with him as well, and so now i’m trying to keep that going,” said Jared.
Jared has done just that, starting a scholarship in his wife’s name for Utah students.Each year one student is awarded 2,100 dollars put into a Utah Education Savings Plan. Last month a student from Bountiful High was the first recipient.
“She’s actually coming down to Dixie State for college and I was able to pay for her housing,” said Jared.