Why parents need to take a timeout

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Jessie Shepherd, LCMHC and Clinical Director from Blue Clover Therapy was in studio today to talk about timeouts. Not only do kids need timeouts sometimes, so do parents! Parent timeouts are imperative right now, with 90% of parents stating that they have yelled at their children (Southern Methodist University of Dallas, 2018).

  • Stress levels: 

We are all under a great deal of stress right now so tolerance is very low for both parents and kids.

  • Mindful awareness:

We need to be very aware of how we are feeling and how thin our patience is in the moment. 

  • Self care:

It can be difficult to not feel guilty/find the time to do self care, but we must do it. It helps us increase our tolerance and clear our minds for the day to day stresses. 

How to do a timeout right:

  • Don’t wait until you’re over the top mad. (mindfulness)
  • Be calm and direct. A mantra or script is useful here.
  • Know the purpose of a time out. We are taking this time to  create space to use coping skills and manage emotions. 
  • Come back. A discussion afterwards is imperative for all parties to understand why the timeout needed to occur. Be honest and use emotional talk. This models emotional intelligence in conversation for your children. 
  • Don’t go for your phone! Our phones serve more as a distraction then a way to become mindful of our current emotional state. Make sure your time out spot has real life, tangible items to refocus. Magazines, coloring books, or a journal are good items to have on hand.  

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Instagram: @blueclovertherapy and @jessietherapy

Deena Manzanares
Deena Marie Manzanares is a Utah native, but lived in NYC for a few years while attending the Atlantic Theater Company Acting School. Locally, she has worked as a professional actor for years in both stage and film.

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