Emotional health is always important to analyze within each individual. Anger, which falls into this category, is especially important to understand what you can do to control this emotion.

Erin Shepard, Licensed Clinical Social Worker joined us on the show today to talk about taking a look at how rage (anger) is a symptom of emotional health. 

Anger even manifested as rage is a “working” symptom of both anxiety and depression because both depression and anxiety cause low frustration tolerance.

Shepard explained that when anger (not aggression) is a response to low frustration tolerance, we tend to minimize it, because “this should not be a big deal.” Embarrassed, we brush it aside focusing on the noise and mess anger creates and miss the “quiet” emotions accompanying anger:

  • Desperate
  • Powerless
  • Accused
  • Anxious
  • Depressed
  • Ignored
  • Afraid 
  • Stressed 
  • Unimportant
  • Rejected 
  • Lonely 
  • Hopeless
  • Selfish

Recognize anger as a distress signal. Anger tips off your needs are not being met. Even go as far as saying our needs are violated… simmering, sullen anger ongoing outburst.

Shephard explains that the gap between giving and taking in parent/child relationships isn’t balanced, so to increase frustration tolerance, she shared the following tips:

  1. Build Connections
    • We tend to take anger out of those closest to us, build connections with them.
    • Laughter, affection, common ground.
  2. Look for exits
  3. Self-care, self-compassion, stress-recovery are not things we earn; they are not rewards.

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