‘A No-Nonsense Approach on How to Grow a Grown-Up’ with Vicki Hoefle

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A No-Nonsense Approach on how to Grow a Grown-Up

By Vicki Hoefle

The prospect of raising an adult while living with a toddler may seem counter-intuitive. Today, they might simply roll over, sit up, crawl, or walk without any assistance, someday, however, they will leave home and strike out on their own. How are parents supposed to both protect their kids and encourage independence to ensure their children are self-reliant when they leave home at eighteen?

In THE STRAIGHT TALK ON PARENTING: A No-Nonsense Approach on Growing a Grown-Up (April 21, 2015, Bibliomotion) Vicki Hoefle presents a philosophy that allows parents to reconcile these two very important roles – protecting and letting go – and to look at the big picture when it comes to growing a grown-up. Drawing on over twenty-five years of experience as a parent educator, and as a mother of six, Hoefle has created a straightforward method to help parents foster independence in children of all ages. Her approach comprises four elements that are designed to raise children with the skills and experience they need to grow into happy, confident, secure, resilient, responsible, compassionate, and hardworking adults:

Relationship blueprint: Building healthy relationships within the family provides a model for children as they grow and develop other relationships outside of the family.

Fostering independence: Using Hoefle’s Timeline for Training assessment tool, parents learn how to encourage independence by allowing children to make daily choices, participate in family policy discussions, and more.

Living with a toddler, raising an adult: Parents are responsible for modeling the behavior they want kids to demonstrate. Turn tantrums, meltdowns, and other “red zone” moments into teaching moments by acting or listening instead of talking so that children can develop character traits that will ensure a healthy adult life.

Intention means intuition: When parents are clear about the intentional routines, structure, boundaries, and limits they put in place to support their family, children mature and grow within a healthy space that allows for order and independence, thinking, and decision-making.

In THE STRAIGHT TALK ON PARENTING, Hoefle offers a course of action that is simple, manageable, and relevant to every family with any parenting challenge.

“I believe, with all my heart, that the method I have been using for the past twenty-five years with my own children and with the tens of thousands of parents I have worked with can be used by anyone who is willing to go through the sometimes messy moments that come with trying something new… With practice comes familiarity, and with familiarity comes confidence.”
—Vicki Hoefle

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