SALT LAKE CITY (ABC 4 News) - On Monday, ABC 4 took you for a tour of his mind. Now, we give you an inside glimpse of his heart, and set out to answer to answer the age-old question, “What do men really want?”
We all know men want love, but what type of women do they fall for...do they want hot mamas, or do they want the girl next door? We took the question to one of Utah's most highly acclaimed relationship experts...and then, we asked the men themselves.
Women, wired with that emotion enhancer we call estrogen. Relationship Expert Val Baldwin says, it’s a different story with men. “ Men are wired with more testosterone, which makes them external and visual. So that's why they're so into women's looks at the very beginning.” In the beginning stages, when dating's just for fun…he's all about, hot mamma! Baldwin says, “Her personality can be horrible, and a completely bad fit...but he'll keep dating her because she's so hot longer than a woman will date a hot guy who happens to be a jerk.”
But does the “eye candy” phase end or does “eye candy” just morph into trophy wife? Majority of the men we talked to say they are looking for the girl next door. One man said, “If they're doing it right, they are looking for the girl next door.”
You'll be surprised to know, our Relationship Expert says…when it comes to seeking out 'the' one, most men she coaches go for the cute, adorable girl next door. In fact, three quarters of men, believe in soul mates.
“Men's Health” magazine did a poll asking guys what they would choose if they could choose between meeting the love of their life, or having amazing sex for six months, and 92 percent chose falling in love. After all, isn't that kind of what our infamous Bachelorette did,when she chose “Ed,” the first to put his heart on the line, over the “traditional stud.” Val says, “For her, and for a lot of women...they want that security, in knowing that the emotional connection is there.”
Regardless what 'persona' you take on, Val says, “It's most important to be your best self.” She says, “You need to be who you are completely, because that's the kind of person you want to be attracted to you.”
Val says there is a three part equation to finding a great match. She says, first, you deserve that butterfly in your stomach physical attraction! Number two? You should have best friend chemistry where you feel trust and acceptance from your partner. Lastly, she says you must meet each other's requirements or "deal breakers".
For more of Val’s relationship secrets, visit her website at www.valbaldwin.com
