Proposed law would create waiting period for marriage


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Updated: 3/05/2012 2:37 am | Published: 3/04/2012 11:05 pm
 SALT LAKE CITY (ABC 4 News) -A bill being considered by Utah lawmakers that would change how fast couples can get married and what price they will pay for a license.

Everyone who gets married in Utah needs a marriage license. Current state law encourages counseling before couples say “I do” but under House Bill 132, they would actually get a discount on their marriage license. The sponsor of the bill, Representative Dixon Pitcher (R) says the extra education will strengthen the relationship. "It keeps marriages together. It gives kids the tools to understand how to deal with marriage."

Pitcher says the counseling would not be mandatory, just incentivized, and is already available through churches, colleges, and civic centers. To qualify for the discount, however, under the proposed law it would have include the following: honesty, debt, commitment, and fidelity, in law relations, finances, abuse, and how to deal with conflict. The idea is receiving mixed reviews. While some like the idea, others like Michael Bobo of West Jordan do not. "I don't think classes would help anyone be able to make a better decision about whether they should get married."

But Bobo does like the does like the other part of the proposed law. It would require a three day waiting period after the marriage license application is made. "Changing marriage licenses, and making people think about what they are doing, I think it kind of ads a lot more to the fact that it's not just something you can go and do in Vegas, that you can do overnight, and that you can do fly by night."

Representative Pitcher says it also gives people a chance to change their minds, much like the lemon law that lets people take back a car within three days of purchase. "How much more important is that with a marriage, that you have three days to talk about it, think about it, and discuss it?”

But some like Umair Munawar of Salt Lake City say there should be more discussion on this bill. "It just seems ridiculous to me that you are basically interfering through people's lives."

Pitcher says the amount of the discount on marriage licenses received for taking marriage education still has to be determined. It’s believed saving marriages will also save tax payers money. The Marriage Commission reports the cost of divorce to Utah tax payers is in the millions. That's based on money for things like child support, food stamps and Medicare.












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JFierstein - 3/5/2012 11:07 AM
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Actually, this isn't a bad idea. As a couples and marriage counselor, I can tell you that people think that conflicts and issues will change once they get married. They don't. If couples could be incentivized for counseling, I think it would encourage them to start their marriage on the right foot by learning ways to keep their marriage together. Too many people I work with haven't worked through their baggage from previous relationships, let alone their families of origin, and don't have the tools to know how to get through the rough times. Communicating and making the emotional connection is difficult when couples get lost in reactive patterns, so premarital counseling could help develop those skills earlier. See my blog at www.phoenixmenscounseling.com for more tips for struggling couples.

silvia - 3/5/2012 10:54 AM
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Well Shaggy. I don't know why you are upset since you don't sound like the type to get married. You probably are screwing a bunch of them that you don't have to wait for.

BuBBaBead - 3/5/2012 7:01 AM
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Hey Shaggy! Dont for get "Not for profit and tax free" status involved there too.

tllup - 3/5/2012 6:23 AM
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Last I heard Wisconsin had a mandatory 6 day waiting period....Utah's law wouldn't be mandatory; from the article it sounds like its a motivation to learn something about marriage and get a lower price on the marriage license. If you don't want either then you don't have to wait.

Poortrucker - 3/5/2012 5:01 AM
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LOL!! This is modeled after firearm sales' "cooling off" period. In the event you buy a firearm to exact retribution because you want someone dead, you return a week later to pickup your firearms and you're less likely to be emotional by then. Bet this legislation was written by men with the intent to draw up a prenuptial agreement or back off marriage when they realize their future mother inlaw is a carbon copy (in character) of what their wife will be in 20 years. Proposal likely submitted by men who regret marrying their current wives.

Shaggy - 3/5/2012 1:16 AM
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Good Idea. We should propose waiting periods on food stamps too so people will really need to buy food that keeps them alive as opposed to buying candy. Also, we should make long lines at the gas station so we will think about where we are driving. Oh, and make entertainment cost more so we will do it less and stay busy doing useful things. And one last thing, lets all join the mormon church and give them 10% of our money so they can continue to be a multi-billion dollar cult.
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