Is anyone else as annoyed by flakiness as I am? or is everybody too fickle to take a side?
Flaky people just make me sick. I don't how it is for the rest of the oxygen breathing world, but I can't stand them! As a journalist, I have to be reliable. When my producers assign me a story, they expect me to make it happen. I have to be dependable, if not, I don't have a job. So when I meet someone who can't keep a commitment if their life depended on it, it drives me bonkers! I've dealt with too many, dated too many, worked with too many of them... and now, my "cup doth runneth over".
I'm not talking about people who can't commit, those people are non-commital. Flaky people are the opposite. They will always commit, but only at first. In fact that's what makes them flaky. They're always more than happy to take on responsibility, or accept invitations, but when it really comes down to it they have no intention of following through with you or anyone else.
Flaky people will talk your ear off about how excited they are about an upcoming work or social opportunity, but just like clock work, they back out at the last second, or when crunch time comes, they're nowhere to be found.
There's always a good reason. They're sick, they're tired, they have family in town, they didn't know how to reach you - whatever it is, they play the victim. My favorite excuse is "It's been a hectic week". Really? Has it? That used to work in the good ol' days before cell phones and the internet. But flaky people forget, when you post pictures of your boating trip on facebook, your hectic week doesn't seem as stressful as you'd like me to believe.
Granted the problem could be with me. I could be a flaky person magnet, and I don't know it. Maybe they gravitate to people who are dependable by nature. You know, kind of an opposites attract kind of thing? I dunno. If that's the case, speed date your way onto somebody else Honey - I ain't interested.
I can't deal with it anymore. I don't want to waste any more time with any more people who start strong and end weak. If you don't want to do it, just say so! And save the rest of us the trouble. I have neither the time, desire or physical endurance to try and predict if we can count on you this go-a-round.
But perhaps I'm being too harsh. (After all I am dependable.) If you really need me, i'm totally there for you! ..but I've got a feeling "it's going to be a hectic week."